Of course you always want to look your best. And you should. Sometimes that means you have to draw a veil over parts that you feel are too big for your figure. You should do that when you feel you need to.
The question of clothing, when you are overweight, is more than just bulges in the wrong places. It is how you feel about your body, how you carry it, when you consider yourself overweight.
Some women, obviously weighing more than they want, wear their bodies with confidence. They know their excess weight is there, and they try to dress it in their own special way. But they also know, and believe, and project, that they are not their weight. They are a beautiful embodiment of all kinds of skills, qualities, and compassionate abilities.
“I am not my weight,” they would say, if asked.
“I am not an overweight woman.”
“I am not defined by my weight.”
“I am me.”
Or, as Helen Reddy exclaimed a generation ago, “I am woman, hear me roar!”
“This isn’t about being a feminist. It is about being who I am. And who I am is wonderful, and intelligent, and capable, and loving, and more than I can cram into a short conversation.”
In that approach, these women take the view that weight is not an attribute of personality, any more than the color of their hair or eyes. (OK, we need to make a fun exception for redheads.)
You can change the color or your hair. You can also change your weight (although it may take a little longer than the hair changeover). That is not WHO you are.
So, go ahead, hide the parts of your body you feel you need to.
But never hide from us the beautiful person that you are.
Don’t let weight get in the way. When people see that, it doesn’t matter what you weigh. You are you. And that is the wonderful experience of being near enough to you to say, “Hi, it’s great seeing you again.”
Celebrate Who You Are Every Living Moment – Please RETWEET!
— Celebrate Woman (@DiscoverSelf) January 30, 2017
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