But how much you weigh can affect how much loving you get. It’s not only how others view your body. It’s how you feel inside your body.
Ok, those last two sentences can feel uncomfortable. They are, nonetheless, true.
So, you have to begin there…start with what is true and work back to how you feel about it. And what, if anything, you want to do about it.
It is easy to ignore, of course. Or at least not talk about it. Still, there it is and it’s not going away.
What gets missed among the malaise and discouragement is how these feelings affect your weight in the future — and how much success you’ll find in losing weight in the near term.
You are a sensual being. Most of all, you are a loving person who desires ever so much to love and be loved. And when you give up on the loving part of that equation, you are giving up on the impetus and power that can lead you back to a different weight.
You have to begin there. You need to reach inside and quiet the fears, lay aside your discomfort in revealing your less than ideal body.
There are many kinds of intimacy. Not all are physical. Exposing yourself to the possibilities of intimacy, asking your partner, friend, family member, or stranger to allow you to feel comfortable in your body…to be able to express yourself without restraining your body…well, that’s where it begins. Where it must begin.
You are not a solitary being. You need to touch and be touched. Do it. Allow it. Enjoy it. Don’t worry about what comes next, stay in the moment of touching. Touch again.
You have to reach out to express your loving. And allow others to reach in, expressing their loving towards you.
Touch is the beginning place. It is also the ending place. Plus everything in between.
How much you weigh, on this day, is exactly how much you weigh. How much you love at that precise weight is a choice. How much you touch, how much and how deeply you allow yourself to be touched, well, that is the beginning place to allow, foster, and create a more loving place — a supportive space for you to work out how to get to a more comfortable life, and to a lower weight.
Start by loving more. Touching more. And receive more touching that can reach to the center of your soul. With that, you will follow the path to your best weight, with confidence and beauty and loving each step along the way.
© 2016 Boyd Jentzsch. All Rights Reserved.
2 thoughts on “How Much You Weigh Doesn’t Change How Much You Love”
This is the sort of thing we should be teaching our children, not allowing them to become caught up in the media frenzy around so-called celebs. Why does KK think it’s ok to post nude selfies of herself? What kind of values does THAT teach the young?
Oh I used to be so heavy as a child.I feel for anyone that has weight issues.I lost some weight in my late teens.The majority of it came off after the birth of my second daughter!