How To Reset Your #MeToo Moment from Victim To Victor

Research reports that one in four women have experienced sexual violations. The assaults range from a tap on the butt in the office to being raped in the back of a car against their will. However, the messages women get in every violation is nonetheless radical to our bodies, our minds, and our souls. The #MeToo moment has become a #MeToo movement not only for the women in this country, but worldwide.

After the dust settles and you have screamed, cried, and had the awakening of what a mess your life has been because of it, what is next? Do you stay angry, resentful, and closed? Does your mission become one of hate and revenge?

Or perhaps there is a more effective method to bring a more positive outcome. The ultimate goal of life is to create a beautiful story weaved within it all of the ups and downs of your experiences. You can have a new life, though it will bring with it a new sense of self and peace.

ME TOO Movement Meaning

#MeToo has become wide-spread thanks to the online campaign that supports the survivors of sexual abuse, harassment and assault.

Though, we do need to thank Tarana Burke, an activist from Harlem who started the Me Too movement in 2006. She describes her experience of hearing out a young girl who confided in Tarana that she was sexually abused by her mother’s boy-friend.

It has taken April Kirkwood several years after telling her story and writing the book, Working My Way Back To Me, to move forward. Writing it down and seeing it in black and white created a safe space of both remembering and letting go. As a therapist herself, she had within her reach an arsenal of tools to dive into and to arrive to some key points that really helped her and others reset their lives. Today, there are women who have walked through the storm back into the sun and now stand stronger, kinder, and wiser to both ourselves and others.

Healing Steps from Victim to Victor for Sexually Abused Women

April Kirkwood’s four steps contain essential key elements to begin the road back to the little girl within us who was once thrilled to wake up filled with anticipation for what the day would bring.

Welcome to Working Your Way Back to You healing steps from healing from trauma workshop by April Kirkwood.

Step One: Get Quiet

Find a safe space to remember from YOUR perspective. Whatever your comfort zone is, work within that. You need not rush. Rushing will not work. Your mind has been running on chaos.

Don’t worry about what others think. This is now, maybe for the first time, about you. Trauma to me involves anything that overwhelms you. These kind of sexual violations cause trauma bringing severe and often debilitating physical, mental, and spiritual consequences.

Step Two: Rethink Time

The word ‘time’ itself drives most of us into a frenzy with ‘must do’s’ to ‘want to’s’ that rob us of NOW and the miracle of each moment that is truly a gift.

It is important to realize that time is yours to do with what you want. Healing from trauma is not a quick fix like a lunch facial to perk you up. For years, many have found ingenious ways to trick themselves into thinking self-defeating, self-sabotaging thoughts to avoid facing pain.

You are here reading this. You are given a new day. Aren’t you tired of trying to keep up with all of ways you’ve tried to trick yourself into thinking you were ok?

Step Three: Become a Friend to Your Pain

Pain has a lot to share with us. What goes in must come out or it will grow like a cancer enveloping every aspect of your being. Pain is an integral part of who you are and what you will become. To bring it into the light of the day offers you so much. Questions can be answered. The miracle is that little by little the sorrow can begin to fade. One day you will awake and you will feel more alive, alert, ready to face each day with enthusiasm.

If you feel lost at how to begin, as I sometimes did I whispered this: “Dear God, I don’t know what to think. I feel so violated, so used, so abused. I am willing to see things differently. I know there is more. Help me. So it is.”

Step Four: Own Your Experience

Stand strong, look into the eyes of those who might not believe you or think you are acting selfishly, foolishly or dramatically. They don’t know you. They don’t know your story. I know my trauma and have turned it into a part of my life I no longer am embarrassed of.

Some may get it; others will not. Join with like-minded people, move away from toxic people, and be YOU.

You are good enough just as you are. Never forget that.

“Once upon a time a woman rose above her sorrow and found she was strong, compassionate, and more empowered than she could ever imagined.”

May I offer you this prayer from me to you:

I love you
I praise you
I appreciate you.
You are God’s child.
Great things happen to you.
Nothing can stop it.

So It is.