I realized that one of the most difficult task we’ll ever be dealt with is forgiveness- forgiving those that have hurt us. While many people glamorize the concept of forgiveness, it’s quite a challenge in carrying it out.
It’s so much easier to stay angry and resentful, to stay hating the other person. I mean, come on, we deserve some kind of justification, right? Someone needs to be punished?
False, false, and false.
Staying angry (although it may seem like it’s easier to stay that way), destroys the lightness and joy in our lives. We start to become bitter, cold, cynical, and closed off.
What we really need from all this is freedom and healing from the wound that another has caused us. This doesn’t mean causing them harm (or anyone of that matter) in return.
Divine Grace Buszka, the Author of A LITTLE BIT OF GRACE
If our goal moving forward is to create healing, peace and happiness, we must strive to do the work behind the act of forgiveness and truly understand what it really entails.
Most people think that forgiveness is for the other person, when in reality, forgiveness is for ourselves. Forgive and let go, because YOU love yourself enough to let go of something that no longer honors you. Because YOU love yourself enough to allow yourself freedom from all that pain and hurt.
However, understanding all this still doesn’t quite help in releasing all the emotional baggage, which ultimately keeps us from actually completing the act of forgiveness. We might logically understand why someone has hurt us, but still not be able to release the emotions of hate, anger or resentment.
Although Time is always a good start in helping heal wounds, there are also things we can do to take control in our own hands and speed up the process of forgiveness.
Zoom Out And Locate Where Your Pain Is Coming From
Stop, take a deep breath, and step back from the situation. Zoom out and take a look at the situation as a whole. Identify where your hurt lies and what deep emotional chords this situation may have rung.
Learn And Understand
Ask yourself why it hurt you and do your best to learn the emotional block it is associated with. Learn why it’s so difficult for you to let go of this.Then, take a look at the other person and step into their shoes. Do your best to look at the situation from their perspective without bias or judgment. What fears or insecurities of theirs might be they be projecting?
The act of forgiveness is definitely one of the most challenging tasks we are dealt.
Divine Grace Buszka, the Author of A LITTLE BIT OF GRACE
Have Compassion
After doing your best to learn the other person, have compassion for who they are as another human being here on Earth. They are also trying to feel loved and be loved like you are. A lot of people will project their own fears and insecurities towards others due to feeling unloved and this may be the root of their negative actions toward you.
Surrender, Forgive And Let Go
Be brave and make the conscious decision to forgive and to let go. Know that when you do this, you are not only setting the other person free, you are setting yourself free. Forgiveness is for you, not for anyone else because it sets you free from hurt that no longer serves or honors you. When you forgive and let go, you are loving yourself enough to give yourself peace.
Send the Other Person Peace And Love
Do the work to heal and grow from the experience. Remind yourself that we are all human and that sometimes we make mistakes. If the other person is unwilling to grow from it, that’s not your responsibility, it’s not your karma. Send the other person peace and love, and then let go, move on.
The act of forgiveness is definitely one of the most challenging tasks we are dealt. However, if we make the conscious effort to choose to be free from all the hurt and negative emotions that unforgiveness comes with, it becomes a little easier to do the work of forgiveness.
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19 thoughts on “HOW-TO Forgive Someone – The Humble Steps. Forgiveness Is Your Road To Peace.”
Forgiveness is a tough one but very necessary. Last year I had to take this on. I had to forgive my dad for not being there.
I find it hard to do this, I know we should but if someone did really bad things, I think that would need a lot of time to heal and eventually forgive. Or should it be the other way around? Forgive then start the healing process.
Forgiving is one of the hardest things to do, but once you get to it, it really feels like the weight of the world has been lifted off of your shoulders.
She’s a beautiful woman and I agree, to forgive is divine. IT might take time but when you learn how, it gives you peace.
I know forgiving is what we should do and at times I find myself not doing that but understand that it is eating me up inside. Maybe someday I can let go, forgive and forget.
Forgiveness is really a noble virtue. By forgiving one demonstrates one’s’ strength of character and one does not show ones’ weakness.
Forgiveness is so important, even when the person isn’t sorry. It brings such peace when I forgive someone.
This is an amazing post. Not many people think about true forgiveness anymore. It would do the world some good if more saw it your way.
This is all so important and sometimes forgiveness is very hard to achieve. I agree with what you said and think it is so important to not be weighed down by the past wrongdoings. Life is too short!
Forgiveness can sometimes be such a hard thing to do. Learning to let go isn’t easy sometimes. Great tips!
Forgiveness is something we don’t do for others, but we do it for ourselves. I strongly agree with your post.
I have to admit, that I also struggled with forgiveness, until I realized that you should also learn to let go. These are great tips.
It can be so hard to forgive. I have learned that it I should usually Better to let’s it go, though.
Forgiveness can be hard, but I learnt the hard way harbouring ill will only hurt me.
This is definitely needed more in our world of hate and unforgiveness. It can be so hard because our culture is so self-centered that we forget it’s not all about us! This sounds like a wonderful book.
Wonderful advice. My flesh tells me to lash out and make them pay for what they did to me. But then I realize all thats doing is bringing me down to them and making me be like them!! I let God take care of those who prosecute me.
Very graceful choice for peace inside, Tammy.
I am with you, letting go and letting in a healing energy makes our lives different and more powerful.
When you forgive someone it should be total forgiveness. Which means when we accept an apology it should totally go away and never ever be brought up or thought of again.
Harboring unforgiveness definitely hurts us more than the person whom we need to forgive. As long as we hold on to unforgiveness, the other person has power over us. Personally, I chose to let it go. Is it hard to forgive sometimes? Absolutely, but so worth it. I love this post!!