Weight Loss Snippets Series
(Please be aware that these short posts are my personal reflections I get during the day or find and reflect upon in my notes I go through. Not everything will resonate with you 100%. What is more important is that you’ll find these snippets sometimes inspiring, sometimes requiring reflection, and even taking action.)
If you want to change your life, and thereby change your weight, then change your mind. Simply thinking about it is not enough.
If you want to change your mind, simply talking about it is not enough.
And while you are at it, if you really want to change your life – change your weight – then change – make – new friends. That’s right, make new friends. Your old friends are the ones that supported you all the while you were gaining weight. Now you want to lose weight, they don’t have the skills, the judgement, the knowledge, to mentor you through to successful weight loss that may take a couple of years to get it all off.
Plus, let’s be clear about something no one likes talking about…some of your friends, perhaps your best friends, have a vested interest in you NOT losing weight. That’s right, they are threatened by your weight loss, especially if it is a lot of weight you are losing.
Some of them may also need to lose weight, and if you are doing it successfully, that puts a lot of pressure on them to do likewise. Some, they are uncomfortable with your successful weight loss.
And men, well they are complex animals. If you have lost 25 pounds or more, and it looks like you will likely lose another 20-30 pounds, expect the man in your life to say: “Are you having an affair?” “Are you trying to get another man?”
Now, if you tell a man who has just lost 10 pounds that he looks “sexier”, he is good to lose another 10 pounds.
But, if a woman “looks” sexier to others, after losing 10, 20, 30 pounds or more, some men, (many men, actually) will feel threatened. They want their overweight woman back, because they are overweight too, and know they don’t have the discipline to lose their extra poundage at the same time.
To repeat the refrain that is so important to learn, “If you want to change your weight, change your friends.” And if you want to keep your man around, give him undivided attention during your transition. I know, it’s all a bit unfair, but that’s what we get when we marry an otherwise rational, sexy man.