Life is full of experiences. And we do carry the responsibility to create the experiences that feed our soul, connect us to others, and build the stamina in us, allowing life to flow freely and powerfully. Reflecting on our own life gives us unique approaches to tackle different problems and find solutions that are in tune with our inner selves. Sharing experiences with others allows us to enrich our own lives while giving the same to others. A two-way rule applies.
This is one of the reasons why I love sharing ideas and personal experiences from those who live life to the fullest. These people ignite us and even show a way out to continue our journey on the path of our dreams. Andrea Kozma is one of those energetic women who inspires and leads with her personal example.
Here’s Andrea’s story and a potent HOW-TO find and stay in the zone of your FITness.
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— Celebrate Woman (@DiscoverSelf) November 28, 2017
Before I reveal the secret to finding and following your fit, I have to admit I am nervously sweating all the grammatical errors you will find in this article. But I won’t apologize for my shortcomings and here’s why: English is my second language and while I am Master Trainer and lifelong fitness professional whose body language in the gym is often flawless, my English language skills are average at best, and I am famous for botching well known cliches. The first time I announced in one of my zumba classes, that we had, “a whole bunches of new steps to learn,” everyone burst out in laughter.
A consummate perfectionist, I dreaded speaking in class for fear of being the butt of all my clients jokes. But I quickly learned how welcoming and accepting my clients were to my English language mistakes. It made me human like them. And whether you can admit it to yourself or not, we are all flawed.
So, the question is, why are we so accepting of other people’s mistakes, yet demand nothing short of excellence of ourselves? I quickly learned how much my clients love my version of ‘gold mine’ instead of ‘landmine,’ but they feel inadequate at not doing the perfect squat or burpee.
I strongly believe life should reflect progress not perfection. Progress brings us our ‘Why’s.’ Why be fit?
If your answer is in any way related to an endless number of personal guilts, like I look fat, I ate too much, or I am not desirable, it will most likely propel you to action, yet it won’t sustain you past your Wednesday workout or when your plateau after 3 months.
Guilt is not the motivator we need to push us through our plateaus and limits, to ignite our new way of living. What we need is inspiration.
True inspiration will turn determination into passion and, finally, into a lifestyle – one that will have fitness and health as routine as brushing our teeth.
I have been teaching for over 20 years. My formats have changed. My class names have changed. I have moved to new cities, even continents! The only constant in all these years of changes is the fact that without being active people lose their quality of life.
The secret is out. You must build ‘sweat equity’ every day, either by saying no to something or yes to something. Most likely both.
We all have 5 priorities in our lives – Family, Career, Social life, Health, and Sleep. On any given day, we can only choose 3. The other 2 suffer. Indulge me for a second and think about yours: which 3 are they? And did you just try to guilt trip yourself into choosing Health?
I have another secret for you. It will not get you to a place where you choose it every day. And you don’t have to, at least not to start. Simply choose it today because all you have is today. There’s no point in stressing over tomorrow. When tomorrow comes, you will prioritize again. Remember, how you test your priority today will inspire how you prioritize tomorrow.
Finding your fit is a journey that will transform you. It will give you the confidence to trust your intuition, say good-bye to guilt and empower you to keep investing in ‘sweat equity.’
Focus on one day at a time – today, one small step. Open the door to the group fitness class, talk to a trainer, and ask for help. I speak for a majority of fitness professionals when I say, we live for those moments. When you seek our help and guidance, you validate us as professionals, since without participants in our classes or sessions we are back where we started – alone, practicing and hoping to inspire others.
It’s a symbiotic relationship, and the harmony is the magic. You point us to our right ‘whys,’ and we help you find yours. Isn’t that a social life? Maybe you get to find a new social way of life – there are lot of liquids involved in it too! Most will show up under your armpits.
There is one more question I must answer here: Have you always been in great shape? Honestly, I never know how to answer this question. What is great shape for a 10-, 20-, 30-, and now 40-year-old? I have no idea. But I have never stopped doing any regular social activity because of my inability to actively participate. That is my answer. I have always kept my stamina according to the requirements of my daily life.
When my son arrived into this world, my activity was making sure he made it to his next birthday while chasing 2 dogs, and making sure my home was clean enough so when my own mother came to visit from Europe, she would actually stay. As a child growing up in communist Slovakia, I lived outdoors because there was truly nothing to do inside. We had 2 TV stations, and the only kid friendly show aired from 7:00pm to 7:10pm. Weekends were special, because in the mornings we could watch an hour-long fairy tale approved by the Russian Communist party to make sure not even a grain of capitalism would be allowed into our pure socialistic minds.
So woods and rivers became an endless source of entertainment, with only one limitation – daylight . When the sun went down, I discovered a passion that daylight could not limit – a dance. Through the dance, I found myself limitless. It carried me through days, nights, months, and years. Across oceans, cultures, ages, and races. This is the secret to finding your fit. I believe it is inside each and every one of us. Your heart will let you know. It will beat faster, stronger, and you will find yourselves feeling alive and looking silly. And you won’t care. You might stumble upon it by accident, like me, or you maybe consciously searching for what is missing in your life.
I found my fit, my sanity, and my fountain of youth when I was 6 in Slovakia. I turned it into an official passion when I was 19, and we have never really been apart since. In my despair, I found comfort in dance, during my happiest moments, I celebrated with dance, and in between I filled a lot of boredom with dance. All in all, I have shared many milestones with dance as a constant companion, moving, sweating, and being fit.
For me there is no Secret – the answer to following your fit lies ‘literary’ or literally at your feet.
Use them one small step at a time and never stop. Don’t save anything for a trip back. Keep moving and only stop when you feel alive. Stay there, breathe, inhale and savour the moment and dive deeper. Eventually it will become part of who you are, the priority you don’t think about because it’s as constant as brushing your teeth.
Andrea Kozma is a Master Trainer who teaches various formats: zumba, kickboxing, Strike & Strong. She has a Bachelor of Science from Komensky University in Bratislava. Andrea recently built an app to empower fitness professionals. SweatNow helps fitness enthusiasts find classes based on location, level of fitness, and format. Gone are the days where you need a gym membership to follow your favorite fitness professional, SweatNow makes it simple and easy to pick and choose the classes you want to join. They sweat the details, so you can sweat during the workout!